We’re here with you,
every step of the way.
A free guide for New Zealanders navigating death — from the moment someone passes, through the tangi or funeral, to the administration that follows.
No rush. Just clear, warm guidance when you need it most.
About BesideYou
Built from lived experience,
grounded in Aotearoa.
BesideYou was created by someone who has sat beside the tūpāpaku on a marae, and also stood at the graveside of a loved one in a small-town chapel. Both were profound. Both were hard. And both were made harder by not knowing what was expected, what was needed, or where to turn.
This site exists so that no one has to figure it out alone. Whether you’re Māori, Pākehā, Pasifika, or anything in between — death touches all of us, and navigating it well matters.
Free. Non-commercial. Written in plain New Zealand English.
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